bibliotherapy
I’ve never been to a therapist but believe there is much insight and solace to be found in books.
Chick lit has, of course, exploded over the last decade, reflecting the massive confusion in women’s lives. Much of it is not very good though. During my thirties, these books (nonfiction and fiction) helped me the best in coping with being single and childless:
The Late Bloomer’s Revolution–Amy Cohen
Marrying Anita: A Quest for Love in the New India– Anita Jain
All Over the Map– Laura Fraser
Single State of the Union– Diana Mapes– particularly the essay An Open Letter to Mom, Deana, Mary, and the Folks at Work
Three Wishes: A True Story of Good Friends, Crushing Heartbreak, and Astonishing Luck on Our Way to Love and Motherhood– Goldberg, Jones, and Ferdinand
In Her Own Sweet Time: One Woman’s Unexpected Adventures in Finding Love, Commitment, and Motherhood– Rachel Lehmann- Haupt
I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti– Giulia Melucci
Lonely: A Memoir– Emily White
Can’t Think Straight: A Memoir of Mixed-Up Love– Kiri Blakely
How to Be Single: A Novel– Liz Tuccillo
Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, and Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made– Mary Pols
The Quality of Life Report– Meghan Daum
Girl Walks Into A Bar: A Memoir–Strawberry Saroyan
The Curse of the Singles Table: A True Story of 1001 Nights Without Sex– Suzanne Schlosberg
The Leopard Hat: A Daughter’s Story– Valerie Steiker
Making Love: A Romance–Lucretia Stewart
The Pig and I: How I Learned to Love Men Almost as Much as I Love My Pets–Rachel Toor
But Enough About Me–Jancee Dunn
Lying Together: My Russian Affair– Jennifer Beth Cohen
The Cigarette Girl: A Novel– Carol Wolper
Now You See Her: A Novel– Whitney Otto
Desperate Women Need to Talk to You– Joan Frank
Venus After Forty– Rita Ransohoff
In addition to this list of books, I recommend a DVD series called “Flying: Confessions of a Free Woman” by Jennifer Fox