pre-judged

by rantywoman

When I was 39 I met a gentleman of the same age with whom I had immediate sparks (we have remained friends despite everything).  We emailed each other several times after our first meeting, but he didn’t ask me out.  I asked a mutual friend about it, and he told me that the gentleman in question was worried that, due to my age, I would want to get married and have kids immediately, and he wasn’t ready for that.

I remember feeling quite depressed by that piece of information.  I was being pre-judged for something I did, in fact, want, but that I might have been flexible about if he’d had the guts to communicate with me directly.  Makes me wonder how many other times in my dating life I had been a victim of preconceptions.