punches
by rantywoman
I took a final exam today and believe I did well. I came home in a good mood only to find out that I didn’t get the half-time clerical position. I’ll never know why. I was certainly overqualified for the position, but they said, as their reason, that they had a number of good candidates. Again, am I blackballed? Viewed as a flight risk? An adversary? Or is it just the luck of the draw?
I’m hearing from both friends and employers that there’s stiff competition in this town. Supposedly, there are swarms of fantastic applicants out there. I’ve been on the hiring side for years, and although I know it’s a buyer’s market, color me a tad skeptical. As the one doing the hiring, I don’t recall being bowled over by a deluge of excellent candidates. Good ones, certainly, but, like me and everyone else, they had their limitations. Rarely does the ideal applicant come strolling through the door.
I used to hate conducting interviews, in fact, because I knew that people who didn’t interview perfectly would nonetheless make perfectly acceptable employees, and that the people who did the interviewing with me and who loved being critical were far from perfect themselves.
The other night, my fling spoke of the “amazing” team of people he works with at his organization. Blech. My background would make me incredibly well-suited for his workplace but he, of course, won’t help me. Somehow other women manage to sleep their way into jobs, but I manage to sleep my way into… nothing.
I suppose I’m trying to keep my equilibrium in the face of what feels like a constant knocking-down. The implications are that I’m not up to snuff, and I have to continually remind myself of all the great things I did on my former jobs to keep my self-esteem intact.
Maybe he hasn’t volunteered, but have you come right out and asked him if he could help you in your job search, perhaps if any openings come up at his company?
Oh yes, I asked, and he started questioning me about my qualifications and then suggested I volunteer for a while to prove what I could do.
Ugh. How patronizing.
Yes, considering I have more education than him and have received promotions at all my former jobs, while he has been fired from several. He also asked if I’m “able to get along with people.” The frustrating thing is I have this very specific set of experience that would be ideal for his company and would make for a dream job for me. The last time we talked I gave him a bit of a hard time about it (this was several weeks after our first conversation when he had said all that other stuff), but I’ve decided I’m cutting off contact now. It’s just too much.
Yeah, sounds like he should definitely be kicked to the curb. Just tell him you need someone who is better at being “able to get along with people.”
Good one!
He’s quite narcissistic, and if he didn’t pursue me, I would have long ago let the whole thing go. There is a physical attraction, but that’s not enough, especially as I get older.