the goodbye girl
by rantywoman
Since I’ve gone public with the fact that I’m moving, no less than four men have asked to get together with me before I leave, men I almost never hear from.
Perhaps this is a case of “don’t you love her madly as she’s walking out the door,” or perhaps these men would genuinely would like to see me once more before I leave.
The cynical side of me wonders if there’s nothing more appealing to a man than a woman who will be moving away soon. In other words, the possibility of a hook-up with no strings attached.
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I’m a cynic through and through, so the no strings attached hook-up is what I’d have thought also. I don’t know how they asked, could it have been one of those polite things to say without actually intending to follow through anyway? Society is full of those funny little conventions, beginning with “hi, how are you” which does not really require a genuine interest in how you are at all.
Unless anyone else has an idea why sudden interest might appear only when a person is going away.
The answer is all of the above!
Does it matter that much at this point? My advice – try not to over think it too much and have fun – no strings can work for women too 🙂
The saying you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone springs to mind. Sometimes we all think there is all the time in the world which stops us going for things for fear of having to face the rejection. My ex only admitted his true feelings for me when I told him I was thinking of leaving my job which was the only thing that kept us in contact. It’s the now or never feeling.