no reservations
by rantywoman
Interestingly, this was written in 2002, before pregnant celebrities became splashed across every cover. Backlash?
There appears to be a generational gap with regard to women’s feelings about their childlessness. Women in their 50s acknowledged a strong societal imperative toward having children, which in turn left them feeling inadequate because they had not. Women in their 40s had mixed reactions: Some felt that a societal expectation was placed on them, whereas others did not. Women under 35 did not feel this sense of obligation, having grown up in a society more open to allowing individuals to make their own choices. That has allowed younger, more liberated women to be comfortable with childlessness. The next generation could well be childless without reservations.
Read more: http://www.utne.com/community/the-childless-revolution.aspx#ixzz35evwgHht
Demi Moore appeared on the cover of Vanity Fair in 1991. At the time it seemed revolutionary.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/More_Demi_Moore
For a while everything was fine and dandy for Demi – she divorced her first husband, married a younger man but once she turned 45 or thereabouts things started to turn sour. Bruce Willis married a woman 23 year his junior and had children with her. T
Then Demi and Ashton split. The general consensus was that it was bound to happen because Demi was so much older than Ashton. The age gap was 16 years – 7 years less than the age gap between Demi’s ex Bruce Willis and his second wife. 36 year old Ashton and 30 year old Mila Kunis are now engaged and expecting a baby.
Demi still looks good if a little thin but because she is a certain age she is pitied. The media’s attitude to older women is summed up in the cover below:
http://observer.com/2012/05/new-york-pregnant-over-50-wins-best-cover/
Pregnancy in a woman over 50 is impossible without scientific intervention and inadvisable to boot but older men don’t get vilified if they are fathers over 50. Instead they get a clap on the back – it’s proof of their virility and ability to attract a young, naturally fertile woman.
I’m not sure if women under 35 are as laid back as it says in the article. From my observation many of them are far more keen to settle down than we were at their age. More of them take their husband’s surname when they marry – my contemporaries made a point of keeping their names after marriage.