the brazen
by rantywoman
http://acowintheocean.wordpress.com/2012/02/24/shame-on-singlehood/
You see, Im single, and thirty and sometimes I just feel really alone. This is a world built for couples, for families and I am tired of being just me.
There was a time, and not so very long ago that I would have been a little ashamed to admit that so openly and brazenly. But its true. Somehow its easy to feel ashamed of those desires as though by saying that I want to be married I am admitting to being a mindless knit wit of a girl who sees value in herself only if she is loved by someone. It’s not that I feel that I am getting so old, or that I see all my friends married and feel left out, it’s not that I feel that I must be unlovable if I don’t have some man doting on me and getting down on one knee to propose. It’s not even that I am often lonely, although I am. It’s none of those things.
thebitterbabe 
I read the entire blog post linked above and found it to be eloquent. What comes through very clearly is the cognitive dissonance caused by the brainwashing this woman has received and her natural desire to team up with a man to create a family. The yearning in her writing is heartbreaking. At age 30 it will soon be too late for her and tens of millions like her.
It’s an odd thing to get to watch the death of your own culture.
I am not sure you need to feel that sorry for this particular blogger. If you read her blog closely she just celebrated the birth of her first son with her husband last month.
Her culture is also very different from main stream American culture, and probably even more traditional than yours, so not sure why you are gloating at her brain washing. She is the 34 child of her fathers 48 children as part of the LDS church. Sounds like she was just unlucky for awhile before she lucked in on the right Mormon man. For sure her exposure and upbringing was quite different.
Interesting I hadn’t even read the rest of the blog… just goes to show you never know how things will turn out!
That’s good. The Mormons are about the only white people anywhere still reproducing at replacement rates so at least this blogger’s children will have a future.
Mike,
Welcome to your last statement on this blog. You just seem like a real creepy dude.
Mike, she’s married now.
What’s the brainwashing? She’s open about wanting to find a relationship. Doesn’t mean one suddenly just appears.
Many of my friends got married at forty and later. It won’t happen for everyone, but it seems to have happened to lots of women I know.
What’s the brainwashing?
Maybe you didn’t read your own quote. Here’s the brainwashing. The idea that a woman is somehow diminished by wanting a traditional family to the point that she feels ashamed of that desire.
“Somehow its easy to feel ashamed of those desires as though by saying that I want to be married I am admitting to being a mindless knit wit of a girl who sees value in herself only if she is loved by someone.”
I think it’s true that people are ashamed to admit that nowadays… and at least some of that credit goes to MEN for shaming women for those feelings… but she herself seems very in touch with what she is proud to have accomplished and what she wants to experience in the future (the opposite of “brainwashed”).
This is true. Men are very quick to say they don’t want commitment or they don’t want to take things seriously or they don’t want to move too fast. So women say they want to take things lightly when in reality they don’t. This culture rewards men for remaining uncommitted and women for settling down as quickly as possible.
I have a feeling Mike would blame the “brainwashing” on “feminism,” so I had to point out that it’s often men who ridicule women for being “desperate” and wanting to settle down.
“Welcome to your last statement on this blog. You just seem like a real creepy dude”
Well done, BB. You have been admirably open-minded and tolerant (qualities that cannot be attributed to the commenter) but enough is enough.
yeah. And if Mike continued to read the blog, he would also have found out that that blogger had married a Mormon black man she met on a mission to Uganda and probably would had something horrible to say about their biraical son. Mike’s gender theories can be edgy and his arguments provoking but interesting but his last comment veered into pure racism. Good for banning him.
Thanks for spotting that about her marriage… further proof that trying to fit everyone’s experience into one simplistic “theory” doesn’t work.