never married, over forty, a little bitter

the scrubbing

“Celebrities are the perfect vehicle because they are working women, but also very much shaped by feminist stereotypes,” she explained. Drawing from the work of Susan Douglas and Meredith Michaels and their book “The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined All Women,” she explained that unlike the rest of us, celebrities can achieve superwomen status, they can look great and work hard and be good moms who cook excellent chicken. Of course, the large network of people they rely upon to achieve such feats are often scrubbed from their public image and all we are all left with are “poster figures for this post-feminist ideology, a perfect antidote to the masculinized working women” that are so commonplace.


We tend to frolic a little in each other’s company; we get such enjoyment out of seeing things together and talking about them and exchanging news and gossip and just being together a bit in the old way.

— Gabrielle Selz, Unstill Life, p. 327

I love this sentiment, although the woman who wrote it was divorced from and unable to ever successfully reunite with the the man to whom she was writing.

With kids off the table, I have a hard time imagining another reason to pair up with someone besides the tendency to “frolic a little in each other’s company.”