the needy
by rantywoman
I’m not sure following his advice will make a whit of difference for this woman, but I give him props for including this quote:
I’m reminded of a story that Rich Gosse, the founder of AmericanSingles, once shared with me. It was an amazing response to how he dealt with skeptical press inquiries about his new business model.
“What kind of loser (I’m paraphrasing here) would go to an online dating site to meet someone?” the press would ask.
To which Rich would reply: ‘Well, there are a number of people out there who are socially awkward. There are a number of people who are somewhat weak and needy. There are a number of people who are so desperate for companionship that they’d do anything to avoid being alone. I call these people ‘married people’.”
Love the quote! It gave me a laugh… and it puts things in a different light entirely. And reading the whole article and seeing the wider context is helpful too. I have struggled with this for a long time (I am 56); not so much wanting to be partnered; i have mostly lost interest in that and value my independence, but feeling inferior, odd, conspicuous, for being single. This makes me realize I am not necessarily lacking ‘something’ as I have always previously concluded