ending points
by rantywoman
As you were going on these trips around the world, were you aware that you eventually wanted to write about them, or was that something you discovered afterward?
I would keep little journals throughout, but it felt so personal at the time and I didn’t really know what it was.
When I met my new husband and two children, I think a part of me knew it was over and wanted to write about it. Only at that point with it being over did I have the right perspective to understand that what I thought had just been a fun series of events, clearly had a big life lesson for me. Also, it had an ending. It had a place to go to as a story.
Plus I’m getting to the age where if I wrote it while I was in the middle of it, people would have said, “Oh dear God, you’re still doing this?” I do feel better that I was writing it from a more appropriate life point.
Sounds like it could be a fun book to read.
Maybe I’m not charitable in my thoughts at the moment, but…she seems to say that only after she was married, with a family, did she feel “loved and supported completely” so that she was able to say how “proud of it” she was – what she did as a single woman.
“There was something about being loved and supported completely that freed me up to feel confident about what I had done, and to feel like it was not a precursor to my life now, but it was my life. And I was proud of it.
I hope that after reading the book, women who may not want their every choice and move be a means to an end (like getting married and having children), can recognize that it’s OK. That living a different life just because they want to live a different life is not something to be embarrassed about and it doesn’t mean that they are wasting their time.”
…Except, of course, she got married.
Agreed… my title “ending points” captures my ambivalence about her interview. As in, I guess I am in a “never-ending story.” On the other hand, perhaps that is a good thing, and if marriage is a sort of “ending point,” it seems a bit less appealing!
I was interested in the book but now less so.