But Prof Finkel is absolutely right. I’ve been concerned by the taxing duties of conventional coupledom for my entire adult life. So much so that I’ve reached 36 with only one relationship beyond 18 months and have no plans whatsoever to give up my action-packed life of freedom and my starfish sleeping position again. But such is the pressure to find fulfilment through a soulmate, who will supposedly make all my dreams come true, that I became concerned that there was something wrong with me. A commitment-phobe I surely must be? Admittedly, there are times when I wish there were a ready-made wine buddy in my living room after a hard day but, on the whole, I’ve always felt that I thrive best being single with a reliable and meaningful lover whenever I can find one.