tinderness

by rantywoman

Have women become the new gay men? And do we want to be? My guess is no, and we never did, but trends have pushed our gender in that direction:

http://metro.co.uk/2013/09/12/is-tinder-just-for-hook-ups-3960399/

Of the nine who replied, only one said she was open to a hook-up. The most common response went along the lines of: ‘Maybe, but I’m not on here for that’.

So what does Tinder think its for? Its tagline ‘Discover those around you’ is much more oblique than Grindr’s mission statement ‘Find gay, bi and curious guys near you’, which seems to set out the state of play in quite clear terms.

But perhaps both apps and their taglines have adapted to their client-base. On the whole, members of the gay community are far more likely to engage in casual relationships than members of the straight community. If you want an example of how men would like to behave in relationships, look for what they do when women aren’t involved.

I imagine it won’t be long before Tinder users realise that Grindr works in the way it does because it’s dominated by men and that with women on board, Tinder will become like every other dating platform, fraught with tension, misunderstanding and frustration between the sexes.