the deal
by rantywoman
http://www.spin.com/#articles/spin-interview-kim-deal/
You were married when you started in the Pixies, and you were credited as Mrs. John Murphy. Do you ever regret not having that simple, domestic suburban life?
Why do you torture me? [Pretends to weep] Yes, I’m lonely. Yes, I’m single. And yes, I’m childless. What more do you want? Yeah, of course. But I can’t do anything about it. I was married briefly to a nice guy, but he wouldn’t quit dating. Awkward.
But you bounced back — you were in relationships after that.
Not a whole lot. I was busy. I read this article on a plane, in, like, Newsweek, about women breaking through the glass ceiling in business. It was an editorial where she was saying, “I have regrets, and one is that I waited so long and I’m now childless.” It reminds me of a Roy Lichtenstein shirt: “Oh my God, I forgot to have a baby!” Well, I was in my early 30s when I read this, and I thought, “Note to self: Got it. Won’t let that happen.” And here I am.
Was it hard to slow down?
No, I felt like I was available. I don’t know. Maybe it’s because I look like a guy — it’s true! You know, they like girly-girl people, for real, and I can’t — I’m just like, whatever, friend zone is cool.
Does that bother you? Looking back, would you have done anything different?
It used to. Now it’s just too damn late. But in the late ’90s, it was really bothering me. I was using a lot of drugs. You know, I think I was available, but maybe I wasn’t. Obviously. But I’m really jealous that guys making the same career decisions I made find themselves with children running around their house and a woman making them dinner: “Honey, no, you go work. You’re an artist, that’s what you do. You’re a poet.” Sometimes I think I need a wife.
thebitterbabe 
Just read the interview. Very cool lady.
She was in two fantastic bands… if she was a dude, she’d definitely have her pick of partners.
Yeah, what she said about male musicians (of her caliber) was spot-on. He’d be able to delay marriage as long as he wanted, then pick up some younger babe who’d be happy to have his kids.
This is refreshing, And she doesn’t look like a guy! She looks like a strong, beautiful woman. Most guys want ‘girls,’ that part I will agree with,
I think “marriage and kids” per se are a bit of a red herring. People are all different one to the next.
Taking rock singers, for example: Chrissie Hynde had Natalie with Ray Davies (they never married), and later married Jim Kerr and had Jasmine. She and Kerr divorced and, according to Wikipedia, she subsequently married and divorced again (I can’t remember they guy’s name – I don’t think he is a rock star). I believe Rickie Lee Jones also married and had a daughte (Charlotte) after she split from Tom Waits but then later divorced.
“Marriage and kids” may be the road not taken for many of us but they are not the answer to everything or the explanation for why things “didn’t work out.” Its unwise to idealize them or see them as the one missing piece.