the hideous
by rantywoman
Very timely, given the recent debates on here in the comments section:
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Very timely, given the recent debates on here in the comments section:
thebitterbabe 
Sadly I couldn’t get the clip to work for me, but I’ve noticed before the Daily Show is pretty strict about blocking access to any of its clips to anyone outside the US. Which is a pity, because I love the Daily Show.
Has anyone ever considered that women who do the “right thing” by marrying in their early twenties, (dutifully not wasting any of their youthful attractiveness on someone who is not their husband) may still have their husband divorce them after a couple of decades, in order to take up with someone else, anyway? They are then equally as single in their forties as a never married single woman. A panicked and desperate rush into marriage early in life is no guarantee that you wont also end up single later in life, and as such this seems like a daft strategy.
Life truly has far too many variables to allow for that type of “do this, don’t do that” framework to actually work. There is no right way or wrong way to live your life, nothing in life can be guaranteed, except death and taxes, of course. Que sera, sera.
Do what you can to find a guy who opposes divorce. Oppose it yourself. Separate only under the most dire of circumstances. Don’t make a “panicked and desperate rush into marriage” even if you aspire to marry young. I’ve heard that women are the ones most likely to initiate divorce. If that’s true, then at least if you’re a woman who opposes divorce you may increase your chances of staying married.
Rachel,
Most men will not divorce except in very extreme circumstances. They will put up with years of daily unhappiness because of their dedication to keeping the family together. They are much more traditional in this regard than the average woman today. Ergo the hatred in the Manosphere for women who “Frivorce.” As much as I detest aspects of the Manosphere, their contempt for frivorce is entirely justified.
A long courtship period is a very effective tool for screening a man to determine whether or not he holds marriage in high regard.
Nothing is foolproof. I know of cases where a very good woman was left by her husband. But I think these cases are rare. When a man leaves, it is often a case that things got so bad he just couldn’t take it anymore (think 10+ years with no sex, for example, or constant 24×7 criticism and bitchiness).