the numbers game
by rantywoman
I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts the other day and the host mentioned that, after a couple of years of doing the podcast, he has now had over a million downloads.
I don’t advertise this blog at all, but I can assure you my number of hits is way less. Maybe 100-150 people visit on an average day, with perhaps 200-300 post views.
1-in-5 women enter their mid-forties childless. I’m unsure what that translates into as far as actual numbers; it must be huge. Yet there aren’t a ton of blogs on this subject; I routinely read only a small handful.
I am guessing this blog pops up now if one were to search the subject, so the question is, where are the readers? Are single, childless women searching out this kind of material? As a reader myself, I’m curious.
Yes – I searched for anything about the lack of status/role in society of single childless women but I found very little of relevance/interest/usefulness. I only found your blog via the Jodie Day/Gateway women’s site. There are so many of us – surely all facing similar issues/feelings but perhaps it’s an ongoing secret shame!
Glad you find this blog and also Gateway Women, where there is a list of other helpful sites. I think it is an ongoing secret shame, but it seems like the internet is the perfect private forum for dealing with it.
Your blog doesn’t show up when I do searches for those terms.
I have found very little of use, other than this blog and the first few months of planktonlife.wordpress.com. The latter focuses on a long-divorced Englishwoman approaching fifty who finds that she is “at the bottom of the sexual food chain.” Although she was married and has at least one (nearly grown) child, and her experience is therefore not directly parallel to mine, many of her initial observations about the impossibility of dating in midlife and the marginalization of middle-aged women still rang true. In recent months the frequency and quality of the blog has fallen off a bit, but she’s still an entertaining writer.
I read The Plankton as well and like it. She’s a good writer. At some point, though, there is only so much to say about the seeming hopelessness of dating at our age!
I found your blog through Stirrup Queens. I seek out blogs about being childless, but take offense at many that are designed for those who choose to be childless. Being childless in this society is even more difficult when it was a choice you didn’t want to make.
Glad you found this one… nice to know there are simpatico souls out there.
Yes I think single child free women do seek out blogs and sites like this. personally I’m also doing research in prep for a potential psychology masters dissertation on this very subject . The very lack of research into this area is illuminating and not surprising!! All suggestions of recommended resources greatly received, particularly research into the health and well being of women such as ourselves.