I’ve definitely stopped looking, and so far, no one is showing up. I think I’ve given up– if not all– quite a bit of hope. It does feel a little strange and uncomfortable and on occasion even deadening, but most of the time I’m okay.
I don’t believe it’s possible to not be looking. To not look is to give up any hope of finding love. As far as I can tell, there is no better feeling in the world than to love and be loved. Why would you ever give up on finding that? Why would you ever stop looking?