It’s easy to become defensive: “I didn’t do it — it happened to me.” But being stuck in this “I’ve been cheated” mind-set only traps you in an endless cycle of bitterness, like a hamster on a wheel.
If you seem unable to achieve your life goals, examine your role in this. If you never get what you want, you probably hold at least partial responsibility. Becoming aware of this lets you feel more in control of the future. Nobody ever has supreme control, but it’s possible you can seize more control.
The second half of life is a stage when many people re-evaluate their priorities. Make time to do things that feel generative and creative — writing, painting, traveling, studying, or whatever else makes you look forward to the future.