withholding

by rantywoman

http://www.salon.com/2013/07/29/pregnant_and_single_at_41_and_on_camera/

What was the impetus for deciding that your experience with becoming a single mother would be your next film project?

I made a film in 2008 [about love and dating] called “Always a Bridesmaid.” Having a history of personal films and freaking out about my biological clock, I felt I was the person to tell this story. I saw what other people were going through, and what I was going through. Every party I went to, it seemed people were talking about these things. I tried to allude to that via other characters in the film, about what it’s like every time you get a wedding invitation or birth announcement, or when you’ve dated guys who ran away because they didn’t want children.

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It feels like one of the feminist taboos is this idea of having it all, whenever we want it. I really loved how you were so open about the biological reality of how things change for a woman after 40. That seems a very feminist statement.

One of the things I find most powerful in the film is when I ask a friend’s mother if she think we’re better off now, and she says, “I would choose what you’ve had, being your own person.”

If I can help somebody get closer to their dream and feel empowered by doing it and being happy, it’s a feminist film. In a way, one thing that needs to happen for equality is for women to feel like they can have something they’re wanting, something that they don’t have to feel men are withholding from them. But we have a long way to go.

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