losing propositions
by rantywoman
I’m suddenly busy, busy, busy again. I’ve joined a group to practice Spanish and another to play tennis. I’ve got some online computer classes to take and some dance workshops and yoga classes to attend. Pretty soon I’ll be in another sewing class, and on top of all this I’m running a job search.
I do have some special events and a party to attend and have made a few new friends, but I’m most interested in my upcoming classes and other learning experiences. I’m placing socializing, especially dating, on the back burner. I feel so much better putting my energy into things in which I have some control over the outcome. If I meet someone along the way it’ll be gravy, but I can’t make that a goal right now.
And no more online dating for the foreseeable future. Well-written posts like this bolster my impression that it is mostly just a time suck:
thebitterbabe 
I agree that it is a massive time suck. It’s true some people do find partners that way, but then some people also do find wealth by winning the lottery. The percentage of people who don’t win despite entering, is possibly the same.
It would be different if online dating were an enjoyable pursuit. But I am sure there are many who others who find it nothing but a dismal experience in which you only get to discover just how many completely illiterate messages you are able to tolerate before you quit.
Love your last line! So true.
I think when I first tried it, back in my early thirties, when I was younger and people seemed more civil, it seemed worth it overall. I had some decent dates. But the experience has definitely degraded over time and now I don’t get much out of it but disappointment and headaches.