domestic drama
by rantywoman
I went on a long walk today and considered the situation with my roommate. I’m happy he has a boyfriend, as we never socialized together that much anyway, and I think it’s a good thing for him.
What’s been bothering me is the sense that my presence at home annoys him and that he’d much rather be left alone to lay on the couch and watch T.V. He’s considerate in that he will often get up and move into his room to rest on his bed (with his iPad on his stomach) with the door closed when I’m home, but that does nothing to create an atmosphere of bonhomie. I’m not home much and am often reading or working online when I am, but I’ve still gotten the sense that my presence is an intrusion, and he jokes around to that effect. His faintly misogynistic joking, in general, has gotten stale. And he’s had no problem cutting me off when he’s not interested in conversing and has shown minimal empathy about my job search.
Some days we still get along though, and I’ve been waiting to see how the job situation panned out for both of us. I started thinking it would be a good thing if he got the promotion, as then I could rent my place to him (furnished and fixed up at my expense) if I had to return to L.A.
I found out yesterday I didn’t get the jobs, and he found out today he got the promotion. He came home absolutely gleeful about it and, in my opinion, lacking in any tact. When he started joking that I should now look for a job in another city so he could have this place to himself, I finally blew a gasket. Like the kid in the exorcist whose head spun around, I locked eyes and said very slowly and firmly to knock off the joking or I would kick him out.
Stay tuned.
thebitterbabe 
Interesting… I wish I could be a fly on the wall to hear your roommate. Is he obese? Just curious. He sounds like an ectomorphic pig. So sorry to hear about the job(s) falling through. How frustrating. Is there a new plan yet??
He’s overweight but not as heavy as you’d think from the lack of movement.
As much as it’s tempting for me to run back to a sure thing, I need more time to think things through and search here, so that is the plan for the moment. Probably through at least October.
Interesting that you should inquire about his build. I myself vaguely thought he sounded like a really self-absorbed, callous, mildly caddish skinny guy.
Sorry about the jobs and your roommate. Living with someone who doesn’t want to hang out with you is uncomfortable at best. Of course, I’m not the most social person at home, so I probably suck as a roommate too.
Oh, man. I read this and your more recent post about it, and that is nowhere near the ideal living situation. He sounds really nasty and rude. You shouldn’t feel that you have to tiptoe around in your own home. I hope you can find a job that pays decently so that you can afford to live alone, or that you can find another roommate who you’d feel comfortable around and who would respect you.
He’s agreed to higher rent and has backed off the joking. That’s where things stand for now. We’ll see what happens with my employment.