gaps

by rantywoman

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/fashion/sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math-modern-love.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0&adxnnl=1&ref=modernlove&adxnnlx=1373551161-G9b0bDtsqYlSNshPRiNYow

But still I didn’t answer. I didn’t want him to know the truth: that I was 39 and hadn’t had a serious boyfriend in eight years. I had seen men balk at this information before — even when the numbers were lower. They would look at me in a cool and curious way, as if I were a restaurant with too few customers, a house that had been listed for too long. One man actually said it: “What’s wrong with you?”

http://andthatswhyyouresingle.com/2013/07/10/when-will-it-be-my-turn-to-get-a-boyfriend/

I haven’t had sex in over a year and before that, it was about 2 years. I haven’t been in a relationship in about 6 years and that one was short lived and not a good thing in any way (except the sex, the sex was amazing).

What you’ve just describe isn’t uncommon. Dating is hard. It’s very, very difficult to stand out and get attention. Especially online. So the first thing you need to do is stop thinking you’re “weird” because you haven’t had an #omigahboyfriend in two years. Going in and out of relationships isn’t any better than not being in a relationship for a long period of time. If people can come up with numerous reasons why you’ve been single for however many years, they can also point to your friend’s transient relationships and find fault with them, too.

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