the what ifs and the whys
I have to prevent myself from going down these paths as well:
Sometimes, I feel a bit sorry for myself. At first, it feels quite good to indulge in it, but after a few minutes it starts to feel like shit. Because then the ‘story’ in my head that goes with the feelings will start up – the one that begins with words like ‘if only’ and ‘what if I’d’ or ‘why didn’t I’ and which all boil down to a fairly core position: Why me?
I once heard someone say that whenever he thinks “why me” he will then consider “why not me.” Somehow that shift in perspective seems to help.
Thanks for understanding. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who can get tripped up still by the past, present & future. Jody x
I still get those “what if” thoughts but more and more see them for how silly they are…