I have been following your blog for awhile but this is the first time I have commented. I read the article you linked to as this is a subject that is very personal for me. I agree that the lady who dressed up like a pregnant 70 yr old looks like an idiot. I read in the comments that she had her kids at 39 and 42. Why in the world is she lecturing people?? That’s like someone who inherits a pile of money preaching to others the value of thriftiness and hard work, I mean. come on. give me a break!!!
However, the larger issue is that women face an unrelenting biological clock. I’m a few years older than you and part of the first wave Gen X. I received all sorts of career advice as a young person but no advice concerning planning a family thoughtfully and deliberately. I married at 27 and purposely delayed a family for 5 years. I thought that my fertility would not be impacted until after I turned 35. I had a naturally occurring miscarriage at 32 and never got pregnant again. I won’t go into the utter hell of infertility. Eventually, my husband and I became foster parents in our local community and adopted 4 of our foster children. It is a good life but one that is at times challenging and stressful. Although, that describes life in general , doesn’t it?
At any rate, I plan to tell my girls that careers can wait but babies may not. If I had better information about infertility I would have never waited 5 years after getting married to start a family. If my kids want a family I am prepared to help them emotionally and financially in their 20’s even if they choose to be single parents. Just another perspective.
Thanks for reading and for your thoughtful response. I don’t even know what my fertility would have been, as I never got to the point of trying to have a child with anyone.
thebitterbabe 
Hi Rantywoman,
I have been following your blog for awhile but this is the first time I have commented. I read the article you linked to as this is a subject that is very personal for me. I agree that the lady who dressed up like a pregnant 70 yr old looks like an idiot. I read in the comments that she had her kids at 39 and 42. Why in the world is she lecturing people?? That’s like someone who inherits a pile of money preaching to others the value of thriftiness and hard work, I mean. come on. give me a break!!!
However, the larger issue is that women face an unrelenting biological clock. I’m a few years older than you and part of the first wave Gen X. I received all sorts of career advice as a young person but no advice concerning planning a family thoughtfully and deliberately. I married at 27 and purposely delayed a family for 5 years. I thought that my fertility would not be impacted until after I turned 35. I had a naturally occurring miscarriage at 32 and never got pregnant again. I won’t go into the utter hell of infertility. Eventually, my husband and I became foster parents in our local community and adopted 4 of our foster children. It is a good life but one that is at times challenging and stressful. Although, that describes life in general , doesn’t it?
At any rate, I plan to tell my girls that careers can wait but babies may not. If I had better information about infertility I would have never waited 5 years after getting married to start a family. If my kids want a family I am prepared to help them emotionally and financially in their 20’s even if they choose to be single parents. Just another perspective.
Thanks for reading and for your thoughtful response. I don’t even know what my fertility would have been, as I never got to the point of trying to have a child with anyone.