zeroing in
by rantywoman
A gay male acquaintance of mine, when I told him I might be leaving, was one of the few people who zeroed in on loneliness as a possible factor.
“I have many female friends who tell me they have a very difficult time dating in this town,” he said. “I’m lucky because I have a boyfriend and a tight-knit group of friends, and we hang out together on the weekends.”
thebitterbabe 
Just leave LA! I realized I had to leave when I had a stopover in Boston-everyone in the airport was dresses nicely and normal, plus everyone was nice!! I had gotten so use to the flashy, skin showing la dressing and the entitled smug bitchy attitude.
For what it’s worth, I can’t recommend New York in that regard, either. The demographics are just not in our favor….
L.A. and NYC are good cities for singles in that they are accepting environments and there is lots to do. But they have both become prohibitively expensive, and at least out here, the jobs and commutes can be uber-stressful. So I’m going to have to say goodbye to all the things I like (the weather, the (surprising) walkability of my neighborhood, the restaurants, all the entertainment venues) to save my health and (probably) my sanity.
I think demographically it is supposed to be better for single women in L.A., but that is certainly not how it has felt to me.
Move to San Francisco or Austin. Both cities have vibrant communities of interesting people – people that think outside the box and embrace difference – in whatever way that manifests itself. Both have strong identities based on this fact (and music!). I have lived in the former and visited Austin many times, and I would definitely recommend either.