Giving myself a pat on the back for surviving, and even, in some respects, thriving, another year:
It is difficult to make and keep friends here in Los Angeles. Due to the sprawl of the metro area where people are driving from place to place combined with the stress of living in the LA area, it is no surprise to me that people really don’t have time to spend with each other. I think that some of the stress that people have in their lives is created by them. I won’t discuss that topic in here because that would be a topic for a different day. I find that I cannot reach most of my friends by email or telephone as much as I used to. I just think that they are too busy to return my phone calls. Especially if you do not have a car in Los Angeles, it is tough to do anything because of the way this city is spread out as was discussed in one of the previous reasons. And especially if your friends are married, you will not be able to reach them often. All you will get is a voice mail or an answering machine. It is frustrating to not be able to stay in touch with many people here but I think that if they don’t return my phone calls or text messages, it is their loss and not mine. If a person is a true friend, they will make the effort to get back to you in a reasonable amount of time. Some people in Los Angeles cannot be trusted unfortunately. Some people are truly too busy to return my phone calls or text messages and I accept that. But I think others in LA are not reliable.
You meet plenty of acquaintance of great diversity but it’s hard to make friends. People who moved here for more than twenty years are telling me the same thing—people are transient (rarely do you meet one who was born here), people move in and out of LA. So the maxim, “People make friends for a reason or for a season,” rings true.