Based on years of experience, I am always telling friends that if things start off weird with a guy– i.e. he disappears for long stretches of time, acts ambivalent, doesn’t answer emails, etc.– the relationship is almost guaranteed to be doomed. He is most likely hiding something, and even if some kind of relationship forms in the future, that hidden something will come back to bite you in the ass.
These days I’m finally learning to heed my own advice.
Sounds like excellent advice. Did something happen to make you post this? Also, something I’ve wanted to ask you…have you ever thought (forgive me if you have already) to read practical books about dating? A few years back I had read a few I truly found them helpful and wise. There was one for the older single woman that was excellent.
Oh yes, I’ve read several, and some good ones too– I think one of the best I read was “Be Your Own Dating Service” by Nina Atwood. Right now dating issues are sort-of on the back burner for me though– I’m dipping my toe in those waters now and again but my thoughts seem to mostly be elsewhere.
As far as this post, I guess I’ve had a lot of “nonresponse” over the past year, but I have to remember that this doesn’t necessarily reflect on me– the guy could be secretly involved with someone else, or closeted, or have substance abuse issues, or any number of other things. Not necessarily bad things, but when someone acts bizarrely, it usually does mean something not good!