I don’t know if Cary’s response is realistic, but I do empathize with the letter writer:
This week I’ve realized that, in addition to all the drudge, there are some really enjoyable aspects to my job. If we weren’t so understaffed and overworked it would be a decent gig, and I wouldn’t be itching to leave.
I have also seen a small number of women throw themselves into my profession in the past, making it their identity. They never married or had kids or seemed to have much going on outside of work; their main focus in life and point of pride was the job.
I have the kind of position I could definitely see someone forming their life around, but I’m not that person. I would be faking it, not just to the world but to myself.