gaslighting

by rantywoman

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim with the intent of making them doubt their own memory and perception…the term comes from the 1944 movie Gaslight starring Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman. Wikipedia

When I relocated to this new city, I moved into an apartment with a roommate.  There were many things I liked about her, but eventually I had to get my own place because I felt like she was “gaslighting” me.  If I complained about parking difficulties or the temperature of my room, for instance, she would deny that there were any problems and act as if my experiences were all in my head.  I don’t believe she did this out of maliciousness but because she didn’t want to bother with addressing the issues.

I didn’t have enough of a community here to provide ballast from these interactions, so I felt I had to move for my own self-protection.

For those women struggling in the dating world or with creating a life as a childfree or childless woman, be aware of this old technique.