I’ve noticed a new “standoffishness” in myself when it comes to making friends. I suppose, based on bitter experience, that I’ve become wary of friendships with other women because of the likelihood I will get ditched for boyfriends and/or babies, particularly if the woman in question is younger than me. An over-forty, ever-single friend told me once that she didn’t want to become friends with younger women, saying, “I’ve been dumped enough.”
The thing is, I detect this same wariness in other single, childless women my age, the few times I come across them. There’s a wall up, one that I recognize.