Learning lessons in one’s twenties feels valuable. As the NY Times article on “emerging adulthood” mentioned, the twenties is a growth-oriented, self-focused time of life. As a twentysomething, one feels that lessons can be applied in a timely manner and lead to future success.
Learning lessons in one’s forties is a more muddled experience. On the one hand, I suppose it’s a plus that I have grown emotionally from the experience of being an “outsider” as a single, childless adult. On the other hand, painful growth at this stage feels a bit pointless.
At least growth through meditation feels good– there’s that.