One of the things I find hard not to notice is that success for men almost always equates with finding a mate, whereas the same does not hold true for women. Taking the field of comedy as an example, most successful male comics have attractive wives at home tending the children, while a great number of successful female comics are single.
Part of this probably has to do with the fact that successful women are looking for equally (or more) successful mates who are dynamic and challenging, whereas successful men may prioritize finding someone who is simply sweet and good at tending the home.
I don’t know what the answer is. I know a solution commonly given is for women to lower their standards and prioritize finding a helpmate who can tend the home like a wife. Rarely do you hear the recommendation that men raise their standards to finding an equal.