single men
by rantywoman
One of my best friends here is a gay man, and it’s been interesting observing his life up close. He lives in an undecorated apartment, doesn’t cook, doesn’t work out, doesn’t participate in social groups, and only occasionally goes to cultural events. On his time off he watches TV and porn, reads a little, and has hook-ups. Perhaps his lackadaisical behavior is somewhat unusual for a gay man, but I don’t think it is all that unusual for a man.
It’s funny for me to reflect on all the things women do to keep themselves up and remain attractive, while men often do quite little.
I am not sure if you mentioned it or not but the gay community has the worst ageism problems I think of any group. Not meant to be a criticism, I in general really like the gay community but I was told by an aging gay guy that it’s really hard. They are very very ageist. Maybe because it’s two men together…two individuals who value looks so much that the gay community is so lookists while the lesbian community is so much more flexible!
Oh yeah, that is one thing about my gay friend… he pretty much thinks that people should pack it in at 40 and their life is over (he’s early thirties). I try to ignore it.
I was thinking about your friend here. I doubt, especially being in the gay community, doing what he is a doing and not “keeping himself up” is a detriment to his love life. Surely more than if he stayed in the straight community.