One of my best friends here is a gay man, and it’s been interesting observing his life up close. He lives in an undecorated apartment, doesn’t cook, doesn’t work out, doesn’t participate in social groups, and only occasionally goes to cultural events. On his time off he watches TV and porn, reads a little, and has hook-ups. Perhaps his lackadaisical behavior is somewhat unusual for a gay man, but I don’t think it is all that unusual for a man.
It’s funny for me to reflect on all the things women do to keep themselves up and remain attractive, while men often do quite little.